If you could snap your fingers and change anything about yourself and your life, what would you change?
Did you ask for riches and fame? Or did you ask for industriousness, caring, and honesty?
The more you direct yourself toward a fantasy life, the less satisfied you will be with who you are and the more frustrated you will become as you fail to attain the fantasy. The more you direct yourself toward a better, more fulfilling life, the more you can actually lead a better, more fulfilling life.